Sometimes Even I Make Sense!

This is something I posted on a dating website on a thread about woman over 40 and their dating insecurities.

I think the greatest gift I gave myself was permission to trust my own instincts. If something doesn't feel right, for whatever reason, I trust that feeling. If someone says or does something that makes me uncomfortable, I take that into consideration before deciding whether I want to continue with this person in my life -- whether they be a friend or a lover.

People can have all the confidence in the world in their job, raising their children, singing in the choir, but there is something about interpersonal relationships, especially those with the opposite sex, that makes us throw everything we know out the window. I think it is important NOT to do that.

I also believe that age has nothing to do with it. I've dated men 20 years younger and 30 years older. The only difference I've found is muscle tone! LOL You are the only person who can guard your heart. It is your most precious commodity. You need to REALLY know the person to whom you are giving it.

Never, EVER shortchange yourself and think that being in a relationship, ANY relationship, is better than being alone. I will take being alone over an inappropriate relationship any day of the week. And that is the kind of confidence you need to have if you're going to be successful in dating and finding someone to love.